Catching up on a weeks worth of calls, I finally listened to a voice of my friend Jen. She called to tell me in a voice of uncertainty, sadness and trepidation that she and her husband were separating. She was moving to a nearby house with her son. I reflected back to my own divorce seven years ago and the intense sadness I experienced. It was my own journey and growth. I am stronger, happier and free to be myself. I wish her the same. Now, I must call her and extend any emotional support and wisdom she needs; even if it is just the opportunity and safety to cry. The Universe is love, Jen is love and I know she will be fine.
One of my favorite authors is Paulo Coelho. He writes most profoundly about change and titled it “Closing Cycles”. “One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished. . . . Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.
Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.”
These are good words for me and for you? Maybe somewhere in us all, are there things we have held onto that no longer serve us? I know I can relate, can you? Let go! Just like winter turns to spring, and dormant trees and flowers bud and blossom,change affects us all, but we too can blossom. Sometimes easy and sometimes difficult, this is life and tomorrow is a new day. “Say Yes to You”.