Last night while working with a client the topic of compassion arose. My client was having trouble at work with a co-worker who in fact was very close to her at one time; I would add almost sisters. They had been through a lot together. Tonight, she wished her dead, out of her life and did not want to be part
of hers. I asked her several questions, and then lay down on the floor as if dead. Now, what would you say to her? How would you feel if she died tonight? What unspoken thoughts would you have left to say?
It is so easy for us to point our finger at another, but what really does it say about us? What is it within us that triggers our anger? Or fear? And, why? We had been working on this for a while, but today she made a choice to extend the olive branch out of love. I suggested over a cup of coffee—but that was her decision and gift to herself. It was her choice to create peace, joy and happiness in her life, I could not do that for her. It takes so much more energy and angst to be hateful rather than loving towards another. And on a global scale, how can we have world peace, when we cannot even get along with family, friends and co-workers—let alone others who live on the other side of the world? It must however start with us–and the personal dramas that are ridiculous.
This morning I received a phone call. “Cathy, that one-act of kindness changed my life yesterday. She and I are friends again. My boss told me how much I mean to our company and what a great sales person I am. I received an email about what a great job I had done in a volunteer position, and another friend stopped by with a movie and popcorn. I am seeing how everything is related.” It was as if this one change on my part opened my heart and the gates in many parts of my life shifted all at once; conformation from the Universe? You decide!
Compassion is an interesting word is it not? I ask you to step away from the older definition of deep sympathy and sorrow and to one that is more expansive. Perhaps a newer definition may include something like, “seeing the love in another and like a mirror it reflects back at us or stepping up to extend a hand or ear to another knowing that yes, we all face challenges and one day—you or I may need just the same compassion for something we are going through? It is life and part of our journey, after all.” None of us get out of here unscathed. (Smiling)
As the consciousness shifts there will be less survival tendencies and more reaching out to help our fellow human and ironically just like my client, will create healing and shifts that will reverberate in your own life and in others you touch along the way—seen or unseen.
Albert Einstein once wrote, “A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”
Can you step out of your self-imposed prison? Can you come from a place of compassion? Peace in the world begins with us, one person at a time. Who in your life is waiting for an olive branch from you? And, if you cannot go to compassion, can you take the first step to neutrality? Sometimes, we need to re-write what we think we know and believe. Remember, whatever we believe is true.
“Inspired Wellness form within”
Cathy Silver, BA, HC, AADP
Certified Holistic Health Coach – How can I help you?